Sometimes you may feel a strong urge to do something, like play video games instead of doing homework or eat candy instead of a healthy meal. Everyone has these feelings, it’s a normal part of being human. Sometimes we want to do fun stuff instead of the things we should be doing. But you should know that it is best to do fun stuff on special occasions or as special treats.
If you always do the things that seem like more fun, you will never get anything done. It can even make you feel upset instead of happy, like having to do your homework late at night when you’re tired and you have been procrastinating all evening. This is why we have self-control. When you have good self-control, you can do the things that is better for you and those around you.
How Your Self-Control Affects Others
Well, how is having self-control good for those around you? It may not seem like all your decisions affect others, but you will often face choices that have an impact on those that depend on you. For example, if you avoid doing your chores because you lack self-control, your chores will build up and may irk those who live with you. Having good self-control allows you to be more dependable and reliable.
Another part of self-control is mastering your emotions and impulses. Feeling irritated, angry, or frustrated is completely normal, but if you lack self-control, you may vent your feelings on others. For example, if you are frustrated with a martial arts partner who is having trouble with a form, you should always have patience and try to be helpful. However, if you have poor self-control, you may say something out of anger that hurts their feelings. Good self-control allows you to have patience and better communication skills.
Developing Your Self-Control
As you get older, you will have to develop better self-control. This means you will be expected to think before you speak or act, and ensure you are always productive and appropriate. You can achieve this self-control by simply taking a moment to think about how your decisions will impact you and those around you in the future. Will a particular choice cause you to be stressed out or late in the future? Then it is best to avoid that choice. Will a particular action hurt those around you because your feelings got the better of you? Then is it best to avoid that action. Good self-control is all about taking a moment to think and choosing the best decisions.
The Merits of Self-Control
Good self-control has many merits. It allows you to be more productive and use your energy more constructively, so you can create a better future for yourself. This impact can be long-term or short-term, but it will always be better than a decision that is made with poor self-control. It can also allow you to be more personable and easier to work with, so your peers feel more comfortable around you. This means others will enjoy being around you and they will feel like they can depend on you. In the end, good self-control is easy to develop and benefits everyone, so try your best to have more self-control!